Pure Gospel Magazine 2018 February 2018 - Page 8

It’s February and for many of us, that also means we focus on Valentines’ Day. What does that mean? It might mean Candy, Flowers, Gifts, Dinner, etc. For Christians, what can we do to make our marriage a different kind of love, a love that aluminates God and puts our spouse at the forefront of our thoughts and decisions every day and makes others say “I want the marriage they have”.

What does this distinctively different kind of love look like? Well, again, it starts with being God-centered instead of self-centered. It’s being upward and outward instead of being inward.

A Christian loves is self-sacrificing, not self-serving love. In Philippians 2:1-4 Paul writes: “So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others”.

It’s a unique love, not like the love the world knows. The Bible gives us many examples of the kind of love God desires us to have. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, “It is patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, not arrogant, not rude, not insisting on its own way, not irritable or resentful, not rejoicing in wrongdoing, but instead rejoicing in the truth, bearing all things, believing all things, hoping all things, enduring all things”.

In addition, our love should be a forgiving love, not a hard-hearted love. Ephesians 4:26-27 tells us, “ Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.”

How many of you would say, “I’d rather have a relationship filled with animosity, hostility and unpleasantness? Well, that’s what you’re doing when you hang on to anger, resentment, and bitterness. yourself, do you regard your spouse as more important than yourself? Do you forgive your spouse just as God has forgiven you? Do you love your spouse by showing patience, kindness, and not insisting on your own way? Are you living this every day? Collossians 3:14 “And over all these virtues put love, which bind them all together in perfect unity”

The only way we can have a different kind of love—and

purpose—in marriage is to experience a true

transformation in our lives. God forgave us and freed us.

As we walk in that forgiveness and freedom day by day,

He is transforming us more and more into the image of

His Son. And in the process He gives us a hope that we

never knew before we were saved by Christ.

By Rocky & Gail Smith