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Pratikraman
That is considered atikraman, and so one has to do
pratikraman.
Saying Potentially Hurtful Words with Humility
Questioner: So it is not my look out (not my business)
if the other person feels bad. I should go ahead and say it?
Dadashri: You should not say it; why should you say
anything that will hurt anyone?
Questioner: Should I not say anything even when he is
saying or doing something wrong?
Dadashri: You can say it. You can say, ‘It is better if it
does not occur that way, it is good if it occurs this way.’ You
should say it this way. But you talk to him as if you are his boss
and that is why he feels hurt. Hurtful or negative words should
be spoken with humility.
Questioner: Can humility be maintained while using hurtful
words?
Dadashri: It can be maintained; that verily is called science
(vignan)! That is because it is ‘dramatic,’ is it not? An actor
named Lakshmichand plays the part of King Bhartruhari in the
famous play. In the play he will say, ‘I am King Bhartruhari. I
am Queen Pingda’s husband.’ Then, in the play he cries out,
‘Dear mother, please give me some food,’ and tears are rolling
from his eyes. Later, if you were to ask him, ‘Hey! But you are
Lakshmichand, are you not? Were you crying for real?’ He will
reply, ‘Why should I cry? I have to act that way, otherwise they
will cut my wages if I don’t do a good job!’ That is what you
have to do – act after attaining Gnan. This worldly life is just a
play!
Questioner: So do I not bind karma even when the other
person feels hurt by me?
Dadashri: You should be careful that you do not become