[ 20 ] Awareness When Words are Flowing in Speech … 351
Dadashri : That occurs on the final steps . When that path is close to ending , that is when things occur – even when you have no intention ( desire ) for it . What you should do at that time is repent and that will erase everything . That is the only solution when things go wrong ; there is no other solution . It is only when things ( karmas ), are coming to an end that things occur against your wish and desire . This will happen when that specific task ( karma ) is coming to an end . Otherwise , if it is only halfway finished , things will occur and you will also have the inner intent ( bhaav ) for it to happen . You may have an inner intent of doing wrong and it will occur that way too . When you do not have the inner intent and things happen , then realize that the time has come for it to come to an end . From that you can know that the end is in sight . Therefore , ‘ Coming events cast their shadows before .’
Cautionary Comment is Necessary
Questioner : You say that speech is dependent on the non-Self interaction ( paradhin ). So then I make a firm decision ( nischay ) that I do not want to talk badly with this person , no matter how sticky that file is . Will the ‘ code ’ ( of speech ) then become smaller ? ( 334 )
Dadashri : When you say something bad , tell him , ‘ Chandulal , do pratikraman ,’ and then tell ‘ Chandulal ’ not to speak badly again .
This way , it will gradually settle down . But You have to tell him that . If You do not make this cautionary comment ( takor ), it means that You are of the same opinion . Your opinion must be contrary to his .
Questioner : Many times it so happens that when I caution him , he improves again . Then such mistakes do not occur again . And sometimes , even when I caution him strongly and make a firm decision not to do it again , the mistake still occurs .