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to moksha. Those who do not have the knowledge of the Self,
if they want to keep the worldly life interaction (vyavahar) as
the worldly life, then if someone says anything negative to them,
they should look at it as being correct. But if one wants to go
to moksha, then he has to do pratikraman, otherwise vengeance
will be bound.
Pratikraman in Hurtful Speech Effects
Questioner: Because of our Gnan, it does not affect me
when people are rude or spiteful towards me. The problem is
that sometimes I do end up speaking harshly during such times.
At such times, if I take into account what you have said about
speech being part of unfolding worldly interactions, is that not
misusing the Gnan? Does this not support my own rude behavior
towards others?
Dadashri: You must not use this as an excuse. Under
such circumstances, you must do pratikraman. If you say
something hurtful to someone, you must do pratikraman. (332)
No matter how rude the other person’s speech may be,
if You ‘know’ that it is of the non-Self and dependent on other
factors, then you will not feel hurt at all.
Now, when you say something hurtful, then you should do
pratikraman for it; that way you will not feel bad about what
you said. Hence, this is how everything gets resolved. You are
the Knower-Seer of what is being said, but for the hurt it causes
others, You have to make the one (‘Chandulal’) who spoke the
hurtful words do pratikraman.
It Happens Even When You Do Not Wish It
Questioner: Even when I wish not to talk to someone,
or I do not want to argue with him or fight with him, something
happens and I end up saying things; I end up arguing and
quarreling with him. What should I do to stop that?