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[14] Release from Bondage of Inner Enemies
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Dadashri: That is called ‘kashay.’ When one comes under
someone else’s (the non-Self’s) control, it is kashay. Then the
anger-pride-deceit-greed take over. You know that it is wrong
to speak negatively about someone in his absence, but you do
it all the same. Sometimes you will become aware of it and
sometimes it will pass, unnoticed. You will become aware of it
sooner or later. This can only occur if you were the Knower of
the mistake when it was occurring. The fact that you repent the
event later means you were in fact aware as a Knower when the
mistake was occurring.
Questioner: In my office, I have three to four secretaries.
Despite multiple instructions on repeated occasions, they continue
to make the same mistakes. This results in my getting angry and
frustrated with them. What should I do?
Dadashri: You are now the pure Self, so how can You
become angry? Anger comes to ‘Chandulal,’ so You should tell
him, ‘You have met Dada now. What reason is there for you to
become so angry?’
Questioner: But those secretaries do not improve at all.
Unless I say something to them, they will not change.
Dadashri: You can tell ‘Chandulal’ that he can scold his
secretary with equanimity. He should scold her in a dramatic
manner like, ‘If you continue to be inefficient, your job will be
at risk.’
Questioner: If I say that, she would feel hurt and you
have said that we should not hurt anyone.
Dadashri: She would not feel hurt if you speak to her in
a dramatic (natakiya) manner. In doing so, the ego does not
arise in your words. This results in her becoming aware in her
mind, and she will make a decision to improve. You are not
hurting her in doing so. You can only hurt her if your intention
is to hurt, like, ‘I am going to straighten her out.’ Then she will