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[10] When Conflicts Arise
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Questioner: It was mentioned once during satsang that
when we become engrossed with the relative self (‘Chandulal’),
it is considered as the subtlest (sookshmatam) mistake.
Dadashri: Yes, that is the subtlest mistake. Such a mistake
should be avoided. It occurs inadvertently, right? But do you
eventually come to realize that mistake?
Questioner: Despite the prayer of, ‘Besides the
experience of the Self, I do not want any temporary, worldly
thing,’ ‘Chandubhai’ becomes engrossed on and off. Is that not
a subtler mistake?
Dadashri: No, that is called sookshmatam - subtlest.
Questioner: There is one desire (bhaavna) that I have
and that is, except for the element of pure Soul (Shuddhatma)
and Dada’s five Agnas, I have no desire for anything else.
Dadashri: This is the main thing for everyone. So what
everyone has to do is gradually become aware of that.
Questioner: I can see that I violated the third Agna, I
violated the second Agna, and so on; I can literally see all that.
Dadashri: Yes, you will actually ‘see’ that; that is correct.
Questioner: Is that violation considered as conflict?
Dadashri: You will have to check that file again.
Questioner: You talked about the subtler conflict being
one where in our opinion the other person is nirdosh (flawless),
but even then, we see them at fault (doshit). Is that why we get
into conflict with him?
Dadashri: When you see him as doshit, that mistake
applies to you, does it not?
Questioner: I get engrossed (tanmayakar) for a fraction
of the time and then I come back.