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is of the one who has the habit, and You are the Self. Then it
will get discharged. The problem arises when You get stuck
there (ego). However, conflict will occur. It is not possible to
not have conflict. You only have to make sure that you do not
drift apart due to the conflict. Conflict will occur without fail; it
will occur between husband and wife too, and yet they remain
together, do they not? That will occur. That is why ‘we’ have
not put any pressure on anyone that ‘you cannot get into conflict.’
Questioner: A taanto (continued grudge linked to a
conflict) should not remain in that.
Dadashri: A taanto does not remain at all. Anyone who
says, ‘A taanto remains for me,’ that, too, is not a taanto
(applicable to only those who have Self-realization).
Questioner: But should we not have a strong continued
intent (bhaav) that conflict must not occur?
Dadashri: Yes, you should. That is all you have to do.
You have to keep doing pratikraman for that and maintain such
inner intent. If it occurs again, then do pratikraman again because
one layer goes away for sure, then another layer will go. They
are with layers, are they not? Whenever I had a conflict, I used
to make a mental note of it and tell myself that, ‘Today I learned
something new. I got good knowledge today!’ With conflict you
will not slip; it will constantly keep You in awareness. It is a
‘vitamin’ for the Atma (the Self). That is why there is no problem
with conflict. But do not separate after having a conflict. Therein
lies your purusharth (spiritual effort). If you find that the mind
is separating from the other person, then do pratikraman and
settle everything down. How is it that ‘we’ get along with everyone
here? Do ‘we’ or do ‘we’ not get along with you? That is how
it is. Conflict arises due to words. I have to speak a lot and yet
I do not have any conflict with you, do I?
One man tells me, ‘I am very rebellious. It is only here in
your satsang that people allow me to come. Otherwise, they do