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even when he does not ask for forgiveness. What should I do
if he keeps doing the same thing over and over again?
Dadashri: Try as best as you can to explain to him in a
loving, gentle manner. There is no other solution (upaya) for it
and you do not have any authority and power (satta) over the
matter. You have no choice other than to forgive him. If you do
not, then you will end up doing so after some more suffering.
There is no other solution. You have to make him understand
and make him see his mistakes. If he changes his internal intent
and recognizes that it is wrong for him to hurt you, your work
is done.
If he changes his inner intent to that he does not want to
make the same mistake, and it still occurs, that is a different
matter. If a man decides that he does not want to make any
more mistakes and ends up making them, then it is a different
matter. But if he says he wants to keep on doing it, then there
is no end to it. That means he is on the wrong track. But after
deciding he does not want to make mistakes again, if he repents
his mistakes, then there is no problem if that mistake occurs again.
Even when he decides he is not going to repeat it and he repents
it, then if the mistake occurs again, he should repent again.
What is the reason for this? This is because there are
many layers to a mistake, like those of an onion. A layer will go
away by repenting, but another layer will surface. So the onion
will look the same. It will all come to an end when all the layers
go away; it will not occur until then. One has made countless
mistakes for countless lives.
Maintain Your Love Despite Their Mistakes
Questioner: What if he is not even aware that he is
making mistakes, and continues doing so? What if he does not
even repent?
Dadashri: Then it is meaningless, is it not? It is meaningless