Pratikraman 185
[ 9 ] Pratikraman in Varying Situations
The Reaction of Hurt in the Other Person Questioner : How can I tell if the other person is hurt ?
Dadashri : You will immediately see it on his face . The sparkle in his eyes will have disappeared and his face will appear gloomy . Of course , you will be able to tell whether or not he has been affected . It will be all too obvious .
Questioner : Yes . ( 174 )
Dadashri : Man definitely has the ability to know what has occurred to the other person .
Questioner : But some people are so good at hiding their true feelings that you cannot tell by their expressions .
Dadashri : Even then you will know that you have said some hurtful things , and that it is bound to hurt him . For that you should do pratikraman . If you said something hurtful , will you not know if you hurt him ?
Questioner : Yes , I would know it .
Dadashri : You are not doing pratikraman for him . You are actually doing it to change your previous opinions . What is pratikraman ? It reverses your past opinions . By doing pratikraman , the effect your words may have had on him is erased . Just keep in mind that you want to settle your interaction with him with equanimity and , as a result , his mind will also improve . If , however , you are determined to only get it your