174 Pratikraman
contempt , one has to keep asking for forgiveness . Even though the other person may not be aware of it , you have to continue asking for forgiveness from within .
Pratikraman of the Relatives and the Dear Ones
Life is nothing but a drama . Is it appropriate to assume that people playing the role of your wife and children in a play are yours to take home with you ? In your daily interactions , it is acceptable to say , ‘ This is my son , Shatayu ,’ when you are introducing him to someone , but you should say it as you would in a drama . The reason you have to do pratikraman is because you have believed all these relatives to be real . You should do pratikraman because all along you have acted as if they really are your children and your wife . If you did not have this belief , then pratikraman would not be necessary . With this belief comes attachment and abhorrence and with pratikraman you are liberated . Dada shows you how to do alochana , pratikraman and pratyakhyan to liberate you .
Questioner : Sometimes I feel bad that he has taken Gnan , and I have Gnan , so then why should such problems continue ?
Dadashri : It is all unfolding of karma ( udayakarma ) in which you have to do pratikraman . You are bound to be pushed around by the unfolding karma . You will not be able to avoid the pressure of the unfolding karma . It is not his wish that he hurts you , and yet he will be pushed by the unfolding karma . One has no choice but to suffer one ’ s karma !
Questioner : I feel like I want to do good for him , but I end up spoiling everything and then I end up being the one who gets blamed .
Dadashri : But what problem do you have with that ? Whatever occurs is correct . The one who wants to do good should not be afraid . And the one who wants to do bad will not achieve anything , no matter how cautious he is . You should