T o survive this highly stressful and exhausting role we call motherhood , what you really need is someone else who is going through exactly the same experience as you are , so that you can unburden each other of your woes , or , at least comfort yourself in the knowledge that you are not the only person on the planet stressed , panicked and shattered after the arrival of your baby . This is where your antenatal group ( or any group of mummies you have formed ) comes in , and once you have realised their vital importance in your own sanity , you may well find that you want to meet with them regularly . If that ’ s the case , you ’ ll need to find somewhere to go – somewhere where you won ’ t worry if your brand new little bundle of joy screams solidly for half an hour , or pukes up all over your shirt , or has an exploding nappy situation going on , somewhere where you can park your