Who are you becoming?
Using your list of qualities and characteristics you would like in your next relationship, consider who this person would be attracted to. What characteristics can you develop within yourself to make yourself a natural fit? All of life is built upon relationships, so if you can identify a few characteristics that you would like to grow within yourself, there is ample opportunity all around you. Set a new challenge for yourself to bring these qualities into your current friendships and even work relationships. Divorce support begins by seeing yourself growing and becoming more and more happy, fulfilled, and attractive in all your relationships.
Visualize your future self.
It's a fantastic practice to pre-live the future and never re-live the past. Now that you know what you want, and how you will grow to meet that next great guy. Spend a few minutes daily living this new vision like a movie, seen through your own eyes (vs. seeing yourself in the picture), and FEEL what it feels like. After all, it's not the relationship itself you want, it's how it will make you FEEL. Experience that today and you are on your way!
Breathe into the "stuck" feelings.
When you do feel stuck in getting over your ex, overwhelmed with loss and tears, use this exercise. First find a quiet space, and just be with yourself. Become aware of your breath and fill in the blank, "I feel___". Be honest with yourself. Can you feel that emotion somewhere in your body? Is it in your gut? Is it in your throat? Locate it.
Create an intention of accepting what you feel, no resistance. Realize that what you feel is an experience. It does not define you and it will pass. Create a positive affirmation such as "I am always loved unconditionally". With this wisdom, breathe into that space where the emotion resides in your body and visualize it releasing with each breath.