Anger
It is not unusual to feel angry about a death
or even angry toward the person who died.
Sometimes we search for someone or something
to blame because we don’t understand what
happened, or why it happened.
You may think: “How could you leave me?” “I
feel mad at everyone around me.” “Little things
really irritate me.” “How can the world just go
on?”
Anger directed toward what we are really angry
about is healthy. Anger can be released by
talking it out. Physical exercise, such as brisk
walking, also helps to release anger.
Regret and Guilt
Thoughts of regret and guilt may include “If
only I had visited more often” or “If only I had
taken Dad to the doctor sooner.” Remember, just
because you feel guilty does not mean that you
have actually done something wrong. We can
find a way to feel guilty no matter how guiltless
we may be. It is common to blame yourself for
your loss, but these guilty feelings usually go
away with time.
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