Loss of a Spouse
The relationship of husband and wife may be
one of the closest in life. The grief you feel after
the death of your spouse may be more difficult
and last longer than that surrounding other
losses in your life.
You may feel torn between the past and the
future. Though you know you must move ahead,
you may find yourself looking back. This is
normal.
You may have trouble making decisions. You
may have been doing things jointly for so long
that it is now difficult to make choices alone. It
helps to find a trusted friend or family member
to talk about decisions. Over time, making
decisions will be easier.
Becoming single again can be lonely and even
frightening at times. Connecting with others,
especially those who have also had a loss, may
bring needed support.
Raising children alone is also a big challenge. It
takes courage to address family needs without a
partner. Find resources such as support groups,
books and articles, and family members to help
you make the adjustment. Your children will also
need to explore and share their feelings with
you and with other trusted adults.
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