Helping Others Understand
Friends and family members may not know
the best way to support you. They may feel
awkward around you because they are not sure
how to comfort you.
You might ask them to:
■ Call often. You may not have the energy to
call them, but you still want to talk. Tell them
that after the first few months their calls may
be even more helpful. You may not wish to
talk much, or even at all, but regular calls
remind us that there are others who love and
care for us.
■ Plan a date with you. Evenings and
weekends may feel especially lonely, so it
might be good to spend some of that time
with your friends.
■ Share memories of your lost loved one.
■ Express their caring. If they want to cry when
talking to you, it’s okay. Crying together and
sharing your feelings together can help ease
the pain of your loss.
■ Just be with you if they aren’t sure what
words to use. A hug or the squeeze of your
hand can often mean more than words.
■ Invite you to dinner or bring food when they
visit. It can be hard to cook just for yourself,
but it is important to eat.
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