Parker County Today Dec. 2018 | Page 39

Cancer and Family: Tis the Season “There is nothing more important to me as a physician than your cancer treatment. I’ve been in practice for over two decades and have had the privilege of telling many patients that there is life beyond cancer. As president of The Center for Cancer and Blood Disorders, I want to lead by example, practicing a firm belief that all patients should receive the finest medical care available, with the same concern and compassion as a cherished member of the family.” Ray Page, D.O., Ph.D. President and Medical Oncologist The Center for Cancer and Blood Disorders It is often said that one of the first places cancer spreads is to the loved ones. Even in the most solid and committed family relationships a diagnosis of cancer can create substantial challenges. People with cancer can often feel alone and not understood while at the same time, the family can feel helpless and unsure of what to say and do. This makes it especially hard during the holiday season we are in. Without a doubt, family relations are always put to the test over the holidays. We all have that Uncle Buck that we get psyched up about how we are going to tolerate for a few days. Yet on the other hand there are family members that we just can’t get enough of and can’t wait to spend time with. Unfortunately, cancer as a life transforming health problem can impact those family dynamics to where we can experience the good, bad, and ugly. As often a catastrophic diagnosis for a person, I encourage folks dealing with cancer in the family to use it as a catalyst for positive change. Although plenty of negative and unbelievable stressors can come in the wake of cancer, one can also seize that opportunity to break down family barriers, mend relationships, say unspoken words, and share love. I have many cancer patients who know this will be their last Christmas with family. They always remind me just how fragile life is, and that life is indeed finite. They at least have a sense that their final days are here, yet most of us don’t know when our day is….it could even be tomorrow from a totally unexpected event. So, my point is that we all should maximize our relationships with our family and the ones we love the most as though there may be no tomorrow – carpe diem. And for those difficult family members, do you best to make “lemonade out of those lemons”. Importantly, I challenge you to take on these holidays with family and embrace your relationships as though this is your last, like many of my cancer patients who are challenged to do this year. Schedule appointments by calling 817-596-0637 or online at www.thecentertx.com Support services provided by: Merry Christmas! To learn more about cancer care issues or to consult with a physician about a cancer diagnosis, contact us at 817.596.0637. “The length of one’s days matters less than the love of one’s family and friends.” – Gerald Ford Most importantly, I want you to know that many families navigate cancer and its family dynamics well. Certainly, in all relationships during stressful times, there will be ups and downs. I am proud to say that The Center offers psychological counseling, social workers, financial counseling, navigators, case managers, and clergy support to assist our patients through troubling times. 37