Dealing with the Stress
Its not easy to shake off the pain, anger and feelings of being completely lost when involved with CYFS.
Often to add to it you're made to feel that any emotion is reported in a negative light, like having your children taken or being spoken to as an abuser is like a visit to your local florist.
The fact is someone is threatening or has taken your babies, you're being told you have done something and no one is listening to you. It is important, however, that any of these more powerful emotions, no matter what is said or done, is handled correctly.
BUT you still need to get them out.
Have a trusted friend, online support group (such as PANIC) and/or seek a counselor. Life coaches will help you gain skills to handle the level of stress your under or will be under. These are not for discussing your case, remember that.
ONLY discuss the details of your case with your lawyer and support network. Connect with music, nature and if needed speak to your GP for some short term help. Keep in mind that you need your mind clear and although these painful thoughts can be overwhelming and take you sometimes to a dark place they are also giving you the strength to fight for the rights of your child.
Although you may want the social worker etc to understand your feelings they get to go home at the end of the day so your best supports really come from those that have walked that walk. Others have been successful, others continued on with their life and lived through it... So will you. If this is happening to a family member or friend it is not true that 'where there is smoke there is fire, false allegations do happen to good parents/caregivers.. Be their friend and stand by them for as long as it takes then stay longer just because you care. It hurts you to and its ok to cry together.