As he stood before his son, I think he realized that our relationship was not what he thought it had been. That the memories he thought gave our relationship meaning were singularly, his own.
I spent years not talking to my father. Not out of spite or for any reason in particular. I didn’t speak to him because that’s not what men do. I’d call home, we’d talk about what’s for dinner or what’s on TV and then there’d be an awkward silence and Dad would pass the phone to Mum. We still loved each other but during those years that he was tired and working, while I was going to school and becoming my own man, we grew apart. It’s only now that we’re both fathers that we’re reconnecting over our love of my daughter.
I talk to my father more now. We’ve taken an interest in finding out what kind of men each other are. I hope that when he’s gone, Kora remembers him.
I hope when Kora’s older, she remembers me.
Matthew Wright (Lefty) is a stay at home Father. He documents his journey raising his daughter, Kora at:
facebook.com/koraandlefty
Kora and lefty