Our Sexuality! Magazine Spring 2017 - Page 8

Is Celibacy The "New" Sex?

Has being celibate become the latest trend? All the hottest radio shows, magazines and celebrities are now speaking up and having the conversations about celibacy. More and more men and women have jumped on the celibate bandwagon and are taking to social media to proclaim vows of celibacy. With all the hype about celibacy, I can’t help but wonder has celibacy become the new sex?

So what does it really mean to be celibate?

First things first, let’s clear up the confusion between abstinence and celibacy. Although the words abstinence and celibacy are often used interchangeably, but are not necessarily the same thing. Sexual abstinence is defined as choosing to abstain from some or all sexual activity for a period of time, regardless of martial status. Sexual abstinence also usually implies that a person who's choosing to practice may be open to engaging in sexual actives sometimes in the future. Whereas celibacy technically refers to an unmarried person who has chosen to not to marry and to avoid all forms of sexual activity for religious beliefs or spiritual reasons; such as a nun or priest.

To break it down even further…

If a person is “saving themselves for marriage” or sexual abstinent until after getting married then that person has taken a vow of chastity. The difference between celibacy and chastity is that the person who is celibate does not plan to get married whereas the person who is chaste eventually plans to someday marry.

Written by Dr. TaMara Griffin