Our Sexuality! Magazine Spring 2017 - Page 45

How do I increase my chances of experiencing the ultimate orgasm?

The quest to experience the ultimate orgasm is a challenge that many women will face throughout their lives. Below are some additional suggestions to enhance your orgasmic pleasure.

*First and foremost you may want to consult with your physician to rule out

any medical condition that may be contributing to your inability to

experience an orgasm.

*Mind play. Keep in mind that sex begins in the brain. If there are any

emotional or mental blocks during fore play and/or intercourse, then it will

make it difficult to experience an orgasm.

*Know your body. Always be aware of how you enjoy being touched sexually

and you must communicate this openly and honestly with your partner.

Share with him how you liked to be touched. Lovingly teach him and guide

his hands all over your body.

*Seduction is the key! Women need to be engaged in a lot of fore play prior

to intercourse. Set the mood. Don't just jump right into it. Take your time

and allow your intensity to build up as this will help to increase the

intensity of your orgasm.

*Try different positions. This allows for different types of stimulation of the

vagina, G-spot, A-Spot and clitoris.

*Try using sex toys to bring yourself to orgasm. There is a variety of sex toys

on the market designed for specific usage. You may consider a clitoral

vibrator or a g-spot vibrator to start you on your journey.

*Take your time- Don't rush to the orgasm. Enjoy the full sexual experience,

and slowly build up to your orgasm. If you can hold out, try to "edge" -

control yourself just shy of the actual orgasm for as long as possible. The

result of edging can be an extremely intense orgasm that will be

accompanied with stronger contractions and a longer lasting climax.

*Strengthen your PC muscles. Pubococcygeal muscles are a big part of the

female orgasm. Try exercising your muscles using Ben Wa Balls, vaginal or

Kegel Exercisers. The stronger the PC muscle the more intense the orgasm.

*Understand the Human Sexual Response Cycle. Having an understanding of

how your body responds during each phase of the human sexual response

cycle will help to increase your chances of experiencing an orgasm.

*Stop having goal-oriented sex. Don't focus so much on the goal but rather

experiencing the sensuality and pleasure of your sex play.

*Delay the pleasure. Women can delay orgasm through a variety of ways.

For example, in some practices of Hinduism—such as Tantra, which

emphasizes sexual intercourse for religious purposes—techniques allow

some individuals to control ejaculation and orgasm.

When it comes to orgasms, it is important to note that orgasms vary in intensity, and women vary in the frequency of their orgasms and the amount of stimulation necessary to trigger an orgasm and even what type of orgasm she experiences.

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