Our Sexuality! Magazine Spring 2017 - Page 10


Protection from sexually transmitted infections and unintended pregnancies

There is no such thing as “safe sex.” The only “safe sex” is no sex! There is always the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV and unintended pregnancies whenever a person has sex. Even though condoms and dental dams are considered effective, when used consistently and correctly there is always a chance for failure especially if there is alcohol or some other substance involved. Abstinence is the only way to be 100 percent safe from STIs and unintended pregnancies .

Deepening Intimacy

Sex clouds judgment and can sometime create a barrier to achieve true intimacy in relationships. Choosing to abstain from sexual activity helps to remove that preoccupation of sex and allows you to develop a true mental, emotional, spiritual and physical connection with your partner.

Cut the Soul Ties

Soul ties are real! Sex is emotional, mental, spiritual and biochemical. Sex conjures up all sorts of powerful feelings, and it's impossible to be immune to them. Every time we have sex with someone, exchange those energies, chemicals and hormones that keeps us tied to that individual indefinitely. Abstaining from any kind of sex play, helps us to cut those soul ties and allows us to begin to cleanse those energies and spirits from our being.

Channeling Your Sexual Energy

When two people have sex, there is an exchange of energy. While it can be life affirming if enjoyed in a healthy way, it can also be very draining. When it comes to sexual intercourse the receiving partner literally receives something inside of their body. In addition to the fact that every time you have sex with someone, you are having sex with everyone that they have sex with as well and that energy transfers from person to person. Channeling the energy that you would otherwise put into sex into your creative endeavors can be a profound impact on your the quality of your life.

Learn to focus Yourself

When you’re partaking in sexual activities, it is very easy to lose focus and become lost in the other person. Practicing abstinence is a great way to reconnect with yourself. A sex-free lifestyle frees up a tremendous amount of mental and emotional space that our sex lives often fills. Without the distraction caused by sex, you will be able to focus more on yourself and the things that matter most to you.

Control of Sexuality

Choosing whether or not to do something gives us a sense of control and purpose in our lives. Our sexuality is no different. When we make a conscious decision to become sex free, it can be liberating and empowering. When we feel a sense of empowerment, we are more likely to make healthier choices, in and out of the bedroom, that will increase the quality of our lives.