n Goddess
Immaturity
Lack of good communication skills
Difficulty with conflict
Must be seen as all good
Cannot face vulnerability
Still processing old relationship wounds
Fear of intimacy and commitment
Cluster B personality (narcissism, sociopathy, often easily bored.)
Inability to bond with another person (easily able to move on to next newer
source of supply)
Passive Aggressive traits and vindictiveness (silent treatments).
If you are the unfortunate recipient of “ghosting” there are a few things you can
do to help ease the sting:
Permit yourself to grieve: Grieving is necessary and natural. Breakups hurt and
ghosting is one of the cruelest forms of a breakup. It has happened to lots of
other people, you are not alone. Talk to a trusted friend or mentor but make sure
you reach out to a professional counselor or coach. They can be invaluable at
this time and can offer healing suggestions.
Implement self-care: Massages, meditation, yoga, meeting friends for a dinner
out, volunteer some of your time to make a difference in the lives of others.
Everyone has something to give. You may not feel like doing much at first but
something as simple as getting your hair done or taking a long walk helps get the
healing process moving forward.
Don’t take it personally! Easier said than done but is a must to help with
recovery. No matter how many times you have heard this, it is worth repeating.
You didn’t cause the problem so you can’t fix it. Focus on your healing and
making healthier choices the next time around. There are good, trusting, safe
people out there but its best if you pay attention to red flags and intuitive
feelings early on. You can start over or you can pick up where you left off. Get
yourself back to where you belong. Living and thriving. Do what you love and
love what you do. You are a survivor, not a victim!
Laney Zukerman, Author
Lessons for an Urban Goddess
Available on Amazon.com and Barnes and Noble.com
www.laneyzukerman.com