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Douching A healthy rectum usually only contains shit when the bowel is full and so there is little need to wash it out. If you feel better doing this, or if you are embarking on ‘deep arse play’ (e.g. fis- ting) then you may want to douche. We recommend that you only ever use plain, clean wa- ter, preferably at body temperature. However, douching (even just with water) can irritate the lining of the arse, making it more vulnerable to infections, including HIV [3]. You do not need antiseptics, disinfectants or anything else in a douche, as they can all irritate the lining of the arse even more. Also, it is not recommended to use douches that attach to the shower, for a number of rea- sons (variable water pressure, you can’t control the amount of water that goes in, difficult to keep clean). If you do want to douche then use the small bulb douche (some men use these to squirt lube up their arse) or the gravity fed bags. You can buy over the counter douches that usually contain ‘additions’ to help with things like constipation. Throw the additions away and rinse out the tube/bulb before you douche. Going to the toilet There will only be shit in the anal canal if you need to take a shit. When anything goes into your arse (a cock, dildo, finger) it triggers the same in-built sensory response that occurs when you need to take a shit. This is because the anal canal is full, so the brain reacts as if the rectum is full of shit, even when it is not. Once you are used to this feeling it becomes less of a worry but it can help if you clear the passageways (take a dump) before having sex. Try not to force it – if you need to go, you’ll know. If you get this sensation when a cock is going in your arse, relax and remind yourself that it’s OK – your arse is full, but only with cock. Needing to piss Getting fucked can also make you feel like you need to take a piss. This commonly occurs in positions where the receptive partner is on his back. What’s happening here is that the bladder is resting directly on to the rectum. As his cock (or a sex toy) pushes into the arse, it’s effectively pushing the bladder up, prodding it. This prodding gives the sensation that you need to piss. If your bladder is empty, you will probably find that adopting a different position will make a difference. Experience We all know that different men like different things. The more experience a man has of anal sex, the more likely he is to know what he likes or needs to enjoy getting fucked. Work on asking for what you want or telling your sexual partners what you need. If you both talk about what you want, or don’t want, it puts you in control of the sex you have and makes it more enjoyable. 29

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