person said or did something that warrants your strong reaction , there is merit in taking time to process your feelings . Once you are calmer , you can have a more productive conversation with the other person .
Ask to be Held Accountable
Learning to break old patterns and to deal with emotions more positively takes time and practice . It is a process of retraining your brain to react in a new way . The more you practice , the easier it gets . You are developing a new habit of intentionally checking your emotions , thoughts , and actions , striving for clarity and empathy in your interactions with others . It is beneficial to talk to your partner and let them know what you are doing . Ask them to help hold you accountable . They might notice your reactions before you do and can kindly and gently remind you to take a deep breath before reacting . They can proactively give you time and space to process things , making an agreement to talk about the situation later . Doing this for each other is a wonderful way to create a safe space .
Lori Ann Davis - Relationship Specialist Lori Ann Davis has over 30 years ’ experience helping singles and couples create the relationship of their dreams . She has a master ’ s degree in clinical psychology with over 30 years ’ experience empowering individuals and couples to live richer , happier lives . Her practice spans the spectrum from dating and singles to working through divorce to renewing long-term marriages . She is the author of Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships , 365 Ways to Ignite Her Love , A Couples Love Journal and
Love Habits . She was also a coach on the Radical Dating Show . Learn more at
www . LoriAnnDavis . com
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