New Jersey Stage 2017: Issue 9 | Page 10

One post said, “learning to take care of myself when things are stressful has been a struggle my whole life.” How have you been working on this? I have been meditating and taking the time to decompress. It makes a big difference in how I feel. It can be hard to focus on meditating when you’re on edge and stressed out. I work on listening to my breath and try my best to ignore the clutter of thoughts. It helps to use a guid- ed meditation to keep my focus. The greatest form of medita- tion for me is singing, though. A song or a whole set can become a total emotional release when I’m locked in and belting some- thing out. Does the song writing process help as well? Yes. Songwriting does help with stress. The songs I write are taken right out of my journals. I NJ STAGE 2017 - Vol. 4 No. 9 pour my heart out onto a page, and then I am able to get on with my life. There have been times when I had severe writer’s block and I didn’t feel like myself. I was bogged down and heavy. I read that you were a bit of a punky/goth teenager. Did that cause issues growing up? I was a total goth from the ages of about 12-16, and I definitely did not fit into the small catholic schools that I attended. I lived the majority of my life with my Dad in the mile-square town of South Amboy. Middle school was especially rough for me, but I’m sure it’s pretty torturous for most tweens. I stuck out like a sore thumb and was teased relentlessly for my “dress down day” fashion choices. I loved black nail polish and safety pins! The majority of my close friends didn’t go to my school, so, al- though I was friendly with most INDEX NEXT ARTICLE 10