a h-u-u-u-ge difference in your life , especially in your relationships with the unloved ones .
In neurolinguistic programming ( NLP ) jargon , it ’ s called “ rapport ” subconscious rapport . All the other person knows is that they feel more comfortable with you . You might want to read some NLP books or take some classes to find out more . I promise you , it will make a h-u-u-u-ge difference in your life , especially in your relationships with the unloved ones .
“ You are kidding , right ? Make myself like that idiot who drives me nuts . Why would I want to do that ?”
Relax … I said , make ourselves , in some way — some way , which includes subconscious body movements , speech patterns , even breath rhythm . Because science has shown that human beings all have a need to be accepted and appreciated . We subconsciously check for similarities or differences in others . We need to find — or make — a “ sameness ”: the existence of common ground , of common humanity . If we can make ourselves similar by something as simple as breathing in the same sequence , or talking at the same pace , or sitting in the same position , we create a deep subconscious feeling of acceptance . And the other person doesn ’ t even know it ’ s happening . In neurolinguistic programming ( NLP ) jargon , it ’ s called “ rapport ” subconscious rapport . All the other person knows is that they feel more comfortable with you . You might want to read some NLP books or take some classes to find out more . I promise you , it will make
The next level of change in moving toward co-habitation on this planet with the unloved ones is listening . Really listening . Listen to the other with a view to understanding , not disagreement or agreement . This is not the time to prove you are right and they are wrong . You are listening and learning their view of their world so that you can better understand their personal needs , hopes , dreams , and wishes . Whether or not they share the same political views or social understandings as you do , it ’ s more important to realize where you are similar — love of family , animals , the outdoors … whatever . Make it your goal to find the sameness , not the differences . It changes the energy between you . Everyone wants to be accepted and respected for who they are . It ’ s your job , as the person who wants to live in harmony , to find that place in them that can be respected and accepted in your mind and heart . Be generous with yourself , without losing your core . Life gets easier that way . And most importantly , you retain your power – your strength . You don ’ t lose it to anger or irritation . You are in charge !
Excerpt from The Third Circle Protocol : How to Relate to Yourself and Others in a Healthy Vibrant , Evolving Way Always and All-Ways , Findhorn Press ( December 13 , 2016 ) Reprinted with permission
Georgina Cannon is an award-winning author , board-certified , master consulting hypnotist , trainer and founder of the Ontario Hypnosis Centre . For more about Georgina Cannon go http :// www . Georgina- Cannon . com