The emotion releases by itself when you ’ re not resisting it and trying to get rid of it . But more importantly , it gets released at the causal level , healing an inner wound that you ’ ve held long inside of you .
You see , psychologists have now understood that all of our emotions are simply triggers from early childhood emotional trauma . Even if we had a great childhood , we have a lot of repressed emotions . These emotions are literally lodged within us on a cellular level . When something happens in your life that upsets you , the upset has nothing to do with what ’ s happening now . The event is merely a trigger for the emotion that ’ s still trapped within your body since early childhood . And guess what ? As long as the emotions remain trapped , you will keep getting triggered . Over and over and over …
For instance , a friend or coworker criticizes you and you suddenly feel a surge of anger . While it seems that the anger is coming from them- that they caused it- the reality is that their criticism taps into your childhood pain of being criticized and yelled at for doing something wrong . As a child , such experiences were traumatic because you internalized the criticism and made it a part of your identity . In your mind , it wasn ’ t what you did that was bad , it was you that was bad . That ’ s what you registered emotionally and that ’ s the feeling that ’ s being triggered when you get criticized now .
Exercising vigorously does not release these trapped emotions on the cellular level . You might go hit a punching bag or go for a run and release the surface level anger and feel good momentarily .
Even if we had a great childhood , we have a lot of repressed emotions . These emotions are literally lodged within us on a cellular level .
Exercising vigorously does not release these trapped emotions on the cellular level . You might go hit a punching bag or go for a run and release the surface level anger and feel good momentarily . But the unconscious emotional pain from your childhood is still there , waiting to be triggered and throw you off balance again .
The healthy solution is to feel your emotions with awareness . How ? Follow this simple 4-step process :
� Instead of resisting and stuffing down the arising emotions ( inwardly suppressing it ) or shouting or working it off ( outwardly expressing it ), sit ( or stand ) quietly with the intention of being with your emotion .
� Pay attention to the felt-sensation of the emotion in your body . Forget what your mind is saying and how it ’ s telling you that it ’ s all the other person ’ s fault . Those are just stories that intensify the emotion and keep you trapped . Just feel the sensations without labeling them . Don ’ t even label it as anger , or sadness , or guilt .
� Gently talk to your emotion . Tell it that you see it . You acknowledge it . And it has every right to be there . It ’ s just energy . But it has its own existence . And you honor it and invite it to be there and do what it wants to do .
� Watch all this from the perspective of the observer . There is a YOU that is watching the emotion , that is much greater and more expansive than it . We tend to say “ I am angry ” and feel that this is our whole being . But it ’ s not . Watching the emotion without labeling it , trying to