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n e w c h u r c h l i f e : m ay / j u n e 2 0 1 8 into the family. They moved often from air base to air base. They weathered some lengthy military separations, one for a year when Fred was stationed in Korea, and mom back in Washington, DC, with three children under 10. She was truly a hero. Only those who’ve experienced this can appreciate what long-separated parents, especially moms, are giving for the cause they believe in. Not surprisingly, the children grew up with respect for the truths, love, mutual cooperation and other values they saw and felt at home – not to mention a lot of fun in many contexts. (Ask them sometime to show you their reunion socks.) They also gained much from their parents’ respect for freedom and their own opportunities to mature as of themselves, and to learn from their own decisions, successes and mistakes. As God grants free will and thinking to all, parenthood means learning how to balance, even marry, disciplinary instruction with a daughter’s or son’s freedom to choose. The four children grew independently, each with their own distinctive characters, interests, and opinions, and they love to be together as a family. Marion married Mike Harris, Erin married Bob Clendenin, and Dan married Kaitlin Phelps, and today six grandchildren range in age from 8 months to 24 years. Fred has had much fun with them too, including rides in the open El Camino. He really loves children, and befriends them easily, with a way of making them feel safe and secure. As his grandkids grow up he’s been interested in their education and career plans, just as he was for his own children. It’s not surprising that his descendants, encouraged to develop freely, grow up as independent individuals. Hear this: Fred said, looking at everything he’s done, what he’s most proud of are his four children. The happiness of married life in the family has strong roots in Fred’s and Barbara’s married love, which goes back to the ideal of “conjugial” or married love, as a spiritual union of wife and husband, who are Not surprisingly, the children grew up with respect for the truths, love, mutual cooperation and other values they saw and felt at home. . . . They also gained much from their parents’ respect for freedom and their own opportunities to mature as of themselves, and to learn from their own decisions, successes and mistakes. 214