New Church Life March/April 2017 - Page 81

     the justifications that come so easily: everyone’s doing it; it’s not a big deal; I’m not hurting anyone; I was drunk or high; and I’m just keeping it real. Get them to consider the long-term consequences of their behavior on others. From a psychological perspective, Soni said, we need to: • train parents to reduce callousness • identify children at risk • teach alternatives to physical violence • practice problem-solving skills • mediate conflict calmly and respectfully • provide therapy for social anxiety • show empathy for all human beings Rehabilitation of criminals is most effective, she said, when it is faith based. Get them to confess and pray, to become involved with a church or synagog, and do a pilgrimage or 12-step program, if appropriate. What we are taught through Swedenborg emphasizes the importance of developing a new will, shunning evil as part of regeneration, the belief that there is no hypocrisy after death – that we cannot hide our true feelings – and that we must be useful. For the final two days of her presentation Soni focused on: The Lighter Side of Humanity – Altruism and Kindness. She has written a textbook on altruism for her class. There was also an article written by her students for the November/December 2014 issue of New Church Life: Helping Hands – Bryn Athyn College’s Altruism Class Shares Their Experiences of Serving. From 1900 through 1990 psychology focused on what’s wrong with us, but in the ‘90s Dr. Marty Seligman in Philadelphia started focusing on positive psychology and what we can do to help people flourish. He s хѕ͔ЁѡUٕͥ䁽)ɽѡɽ՝)卡䁙͕)ݡӊéɽݥѠ)̰Ёѡ`́ȸ)5M)Aхѕ)ͥͥѥٔ)卡䁅ݡЁݔ)Ѽ)ɥ͠!хѕ)͔ЁѡUٕͥ)Aم)Ѽٕɕͥ)(