Anita L . Roseboro
TO COURT
Anita L . Roseboro
OR NOT TO COURT
Over the last few weeks , I have researchned how many women have been “ courted .” Various age groups were asked the question “ What does courting mean ?” and “ Have you been courted ?” Once upon a time , men took the time to “ court ” a woman . Most of the middle-aged to older women had been courted at least once . I was pleasantly surprised that the younger girls knew what courting was ; I was equally shocked that not one of them had been courted .
Courting is the experience of developing a deep relationship with someone without the complication of sex ; while seeing if it will lead to marriage . In this microwave society where everything is expected to be fast , no one wants to wait for anything . Young girls believe if a guy is not actively trying to get in their pants there is something wrong with them . Young boys are so eager to lose their virginity and break in a girl that they don ’ t even check to find out her last name . Taking the slow road is essential to the health of both women and men , in this day . When did we stop teaching our children to respect themselves and others ? Mothers were diligent about their daughters having respect for themselves . While it was okay for young boys to sow their wild oats , most did so with girls they never intended to marry . Courting allowed the men to invest in the relationship and the woman .
I ’ m reminded of a story of a boy coming to take one of my aunts on a date . He just happened to mention what he had planned for her . While I was not privy to his exact statement , my grandfathers ’ reaction was enough to let me know it wasn ’ t good or smart . Being the giant of a man that he was , picked this kid up and tossed him into a lit fireplace . Needless to say , no date took place . With
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