In my journeys as an author , with the theme of the majority of the books that I write , whenever I ’ m at a book event or a book signing , I always get at least one woman in the crowd who will make certain statements that refer to their ability — or inability — to identify with the submissive women in my literary universe .
“ I could never be a submissive like that … what example would I be setting for my daughters ?”
“ I like to be in control too much … we ’ d be fighting .”
“ That ’ s not the biblical version of submission that I ’ m interested in . That version is too perverse for me .”
I think you get the gist of where I ’ m going with those statements .
What I try to explain to those women , and in a way in which I ’ m not trying to convince them as I ’ m trying to help them understand , is that there are several different ways that submission can take shape , whether the Dominant is within the BDSM lifestyle or not .
As quiet as it is kept ( shhhh , don ’ t tell nobody I told you this , LOL ), there are a lot of Dominants who adhere to the biblical concept of submission . In fact , there are a lot of them who incorporate those teachings inside of their alternative relationships — what is termed as “ 1950s Household ” power-exchange relationships . Google it — it ’ s a thing , trust me !
So , while your proverbial heads are exploding over that concept , allow me to get to the crux of what this article is about : submission and motherhood .
I spoke to several women who I am very good friends with , and some I consider extended family . They are all submissives who serve their Dominants , and they are all mothers . I ’ ve gotten the gambit of different emotions based on the questions I ’ ve asked them with regard to their thoughts on motherhood and submission : humor , introspection , pride , indifference with regard to those who can ’ t ( or won ’ t ) understand how they can live “ that life ”. As “ lovey ” explained , “ being a mother and submissive are not mutually exclusive titles … being a submissive woman does not mean sacrificing my wants and needs and responsibilities . Having children simply means a level of discretion is always taken under consideration .”
This is probably the one thing that most women fail to understand when it comes to “ What it is that we do ”— the discretion is paramount . Very few women I have encountered flaunt their lifestyle choice in the faces of their children ; they need to stay in a child ’ s place . Meanwhile , mommy still gets to be a woman , and is entirely