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W We are so thankful that we have found such special truths that have helped us walk through life hand in hand.  — Barbara T h ey h ave s tood with us , helped 2.   LE ARN   he n some t hi ng i s N ev er th in k you ’ ve got it all i m p ort a nt t o us,  l i k e our fi g u red ou t, make it a goal in m a r r ia ge ,   w e ne ed t o ma k e sure i t you r ma rriage to keep learn in g sta ys cha rg e d up .  I f your ma rri a g e a n d g row in g togeth er.  T h rou gh is im p ort a nt t o you, shoul d n’t you ou r yea rs of cou n s elin g, we h ave b e int e nt i ona l a b out “re c ha rg i ng ” s een fa r too man y cou ples divorce it d a ily ? S houl d n’t you ma k e sure b eca u s e th ey th ou gh t th e gras s y ou’ r e doi ng e v e ryt hi ng i n your wa s g reen er on th e oth er s ide. p ow e r t o k e e p your rel a t i onshi p wi t h M y h u s b an d alw ays s aid, “it may y our husb a nd or wi f e p owered up l ook g reen er, bu t more th an likely a t a ll t i m e s?  M ost of us woul d sa y i t i s A s trotu rf” Ha! Remember th e w e w a n t a f ul l y c ha rg ed   ma rri a g e, g ra s s i s green er wh ere you w ater b ut w e d on’t a l wa ys k now how t o d o i t. So l earn to rech arge you s pou s e it. T he re ’s not a si mp l e i nst ruc t i on a n d   you  will alw ays h ave a great m a nual or a p l ug a t t a c he d t o l a wn a n d marriage. your sp ouse you c a n j ust c onne c t into a n out l e t . No, rec ha rg i ng a 3.   LAST , BUT CERT AINLY NOT m a r r ia g e re q ui res muc h more ef f ort LE AST ,  PRAY T OGET HER. t ha n r e c ha rg i ng a p hone.  Here T h i s on e migh t in timidate s ome of a r e   3   si m p l e w a ys you c a n a d d you , b u t I believe prayer is on e of a d a ily d ose of ene rg y t o your th e mos t in timate acts a cou ple m a r r ia g e . ca n s h a re. Begin an d en d you r day b y h ol d i n g h an ds an d th an kin g 1 .   L I S T E N ( DO N’ T J U S T PR E TE ND TO B E L I S TE NI NG ) . M ost o f us a re p ret t y g ood a t g i v i ng t he m ini m um a mount of f oc us r e q uir ed t o m a k e our sp ouse t hi nk w e ’ r e r e a l l y l i st e ni ng . I nst e a d , g i v e your sp ouse your f ul l , und i v i d e d a t t e nt io n. W e c ommuni c a t e our l ov e b y our l i st e ni ng e v e n more t ha n w e d o w i t h our word s.   Re me mb e r you c an he a r  w ha t your sp ouse i s sa ying   w i t hout   rea l l y  l i st eni ng !    THI S is not a g ood   t hi ng .  Li st en t o und erst a nd , not t o si mp l y r e sp on d .   M ost of t he t i me your G od for each  oth er (ou t lou d) an d a s ki n g G od to gu ide you r s teps . A ma rri age bu ilt on a fou n dation of fa i th   an d prayer is a s tron g ma rri a g e. u s , an d en cou raged u s w hen w e w ere goin g th rou gh  difficult tim es on th is jou rn ey of mar r iage. Fr iends th at are able to refres h y ou ar e a bles s in g from G od. Five times in the N ew T es tamen t G od s h ow s  us thi s tru th .  L et’ s  look at ju s t one ver s e i n 2 T imoth y 1:16, AMP “T h e L ord gran t mercy to the fam i l y of On es iph oru s , becaus e he often refres h ed me an d s h o w ed me kin dn es s [comfortin g and r evivi ng me like fres h air] an d he w as no t as h amed of th e bad cir cums tances I h ad gon e th rou gh .”   N otice On es iph oru s (why cou ldn ’ t h is n ame h ave been Bil l or J oh n or s ometh in g s imple?) refres h ed an d s h owed k indnes s , even  th ou gh h e kn ew h is frien d, Pau l, w as  goin g thr ough very difficu lt times .  It is dur ing th es e times th at tru e f r iends s h ow u p an d do w h at God has pu rpos ed th em to do.  Lik e a fres h breeze, th ey en cour age and refres h u s . On  man y differ ent occas ion s , wh en w e w er e going   A n oth er s ecret we h ave fou n d is th e i mp orta n ce of h avin g frien ds . Wh ile i t i s tru e th at my h u s ban d an d I d ra w  s tren gth from each oth er, we h a v e fou n d th ere are times  th at w e n eed s ome as s is tan ce. Dow n th rou g h th e years we h ave been b l es s ed w ith a s pecial grou p of p eop le th at we call frien ds . th rou gh difficu lt times  that fr iends w ou ld call, text, or even came to o ur h ome an d s pen d time w ith us  and pray with  u s .  Du rin g s ome of our darkes t times , G od h as s ent us frien ds to refres h u s .     T oday as we w alk in ou r later y ear s of life, an d look back o n s ome o f ou r fon des t years of mar r iage, sp ouse d oe s not ne e d your op i ni on w e are s o th an kfu l th at w e have or a d v i c e , b ut your sup p ort . fou n d s u ch s pecial truths that have h elped u s walk th rou gh life hand i n h an d.  NCOMMON   24 SPRING 2017