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R E LA T IO N S H IP R E C H A R G E N Refresh Renew Recharge P r oud of our ne w i nv e st me nt , we  we nt st r a ig ht to w ork   b ui l d i ng   t he worms a home. W e  follow e d   t he i nst ruc t i ons t o t he l et t er. O nc e t he s t ruc t ure wa s f i ni she d we a d d ed t he la st e le m e nt :   12   i nc hes of t op soi l t ha t w ould m a k e a c oz y home   f or our l i t t l e w or m s. T he   ne x t d a y,  t he c omp a ny d el i v ered “WE HA V E LE A RNE D THA T TRY I N G T O CHA NGE OU R SP OU SE   I S LI KE T RY IN G TO PU S H A ROP E , I M POS S IB L E.” t he w or m s. W e   w e re so ex c i t ed   a b out our fut ur e , a nd   f e l t w e   were  se t   f or l i f e.  W e   were t he  p r oud ow ne rs of The St a nf ord   Worm Fa r m . T he f i rst c oup l e of d a ys we c he c k e d on our w or m s f a i t hf ul l y. A f ew morni ng s la t e r , w e we nt out t o c he c k   on  our inv e stm e nt a nd our worms were g one . E v ery. S ing le . O ne . G O NE ! Tha t home we b ui l t a n d t houg ht w o ul d k e e p t he m  sa f e a nd se c ure, ha d fa ile d.   The y ha d   d ug t hemse l v e s i nt o t he g r ound a nd w e re g one. Our worm f a rm fut ur e w a s g one w i t h t he m.  Thi s v ery sa me p r inc ip le ap p l i e s t o ma rri a g e. You c a n l i v e in a n  a p a r t m e nt or  a ma nsi on, you c a n ha v e t ons of m one y  or l i v e p a yc hec k t o p a yc he c k , b ut   i f you a re   not c ommi t t ed t o e a c h ot he r f or t he  d ura t i on i t   wi l l nev er w or k .   O ur w orm s w ere not c ommi t t e d !    I n m a r r ia g e , i t i s not so muc h a b out t ryi ng t o b e ne w a ga i n a s m uc h a s i t i s a b out b e i ng c om m itt e d t o t he p e rson you ma rry. A f t er T o rech arge mean s to res tore en ergy.  We h ave learn ed th at tryin g to ch an ge ou r s pou s e is like tryin g to pu s h a rope, IMPOSSIBL E. We h ave s pen t a few years tryin g to ch an ge each oth er, w an tin g to prove to th e oth er th at w e w ere righ t. Bu t, w e lear ned th at we brou gh t tw o differen t u pbrin gin gs  in to our marriage. We are differen t an d th at is a good th ing.  So in s tead of tryin g to ch an ge each oth er to be w h at we th ou gh t th e oth er s h ou ld be we h ave lear ned th e s ecret of rech argin g each oth er to be wh at G od in ten ded u s to be.   On e of th e mos t fru s tratin g th in gs on earth is when you reach in to you r pocket or pu rs e an d take out y our ph on e on ly to realize it’ s completely ou t of power . Y ou remember th at you didn ’ t ch arge it, an d n ow, it’s dead. Y ou w on ’ t be able to play words with friends , ch eck FB accou n t, or text an ybody u n til you rechar ge it. 3 9 ye a r s of m a rri a g e , ra i si ng t wo c hi l d re n, p a st or ing f our c hurc hes, c ounse l i ng hund r e d s o f c oup l e s,  our ene rg y l e v e l i s n ot t he sa m e a s i t w a s i n our e a rl y ye a rs.  Tha t’ s w he r e w e ha v e ha d t o l e a rn t he v a l ue of show ing up . You w i l l e x p e ri e nc e t oug her t im e s in a ny re l a t i onshi p . D uri ng t hose t im e s m a ny c oup l e s d on’t k now wha t t o d o. T h RR<*6S*RbRB*6pWBǒ *bRR&BגW6"B6*FW2 *( '&rR2B&@B6( B( 2B&2RvR&RR7B'B@f66'BVBbBR *B( 2&PƖRFRBW"BRb&2RRbRB6pWRbR"FB7B2֒BBRBVBP2"72BRf6R'&rR *2W&WrR"RGr*RRvBrWBW,*B&VrƖfRBRbR"26BW"BR7BBb rVGBr *BB6BRBVrB6( @2"76RBW"B2 *W7R2vVBr0rR"RBvrW,*v*"WB *vR *2R@B2B&2RB*4(`#05$r#