MSEJ February 2018 - Page 12

2. Acknowledge defeat without blame.

Blame may initially make you feel better, but in reality, it’s not going to help you make any progress. Like any Olympic athlete, you will get better by analyzing your performance objectively, assessing what you could do better, and making improvements with a plan in mind. If you get stuck thinking about who (or what) is to blame, you may find yourself at the bottom of a downward spiral. You are the one in charge of framing your rough moments—and how you frame them matters.

3. Consider your ultimate goal.

Ask yourself what you really want to gain, what’s most important to you when it comes to your new job. The answer to this question is going to be the reason that you risk falls and failures for the sake of victory. When you’re ready, reach out to your network, contact your ES, and try again!

The job search is imperfect and unpredictable. If you were to describe it, you might present a technical list of steps, items you can cross off a list. However, behind each item, there’s a mental and emotional game that’s in play as you work to overcome your fears, doubts, and challenges to achieve your dreams.

If you’re in need of something to help you through a tough spot, I always reach for Think and Grow Rich or You are a Badass when I’m in a job search crunch.

Because I also need the reminder—sometimes a near miss is what puts us exactly where we were meant to be.

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