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clear that the Pill is contraceptive—an an- ti-life choice—and must be understood as included in what the Church has always rejected. We must, of course, reject dissent and defend the Church’s teaching. But how can we help couples for whom this teaching presents grave challenges? If it is wron g to practice contraception, how can a couple with children who are open to more children in the future, but whose responsibilities limit the ability to properly care for more children at the present time? Might not a couple in these and similar circumstances rightly judge they cannot meet their other responsibilities properly if they have more children now, yet be justified in continuing to come together as husband and wife? The answer, of course, is yes. And such couples are not without recourse, because natural family planning is available to them, a method the Church encourages them to learn about so they can identify the signs of the wife’s fertility and avoid possible pregnancy. Because this method has proven to be so effective in promoting marital communion, it is worth considering more closely. There are many advantages to practicing natural family planning, or NFP. First and foremost, couples that practice NFP do not make the anti-life choice of contraception, for they make the sacrifice of abstaining whenever intercourse might result in conception. They do so precisely to avoid the sin of contraception. Of course, practicing NFP requires discipline and sacrifice. It will not work if, for example, a husband treats his wife as the instrument of his pleasure rather than as his beloved spouse. As they abstain for approximately eight days each cycle, a faithful husband and wife will build up their relationship in other ways. When they come together after their time of abstinence, their union has more meaning, for it embodies a fuller relationship. NFP is also a great benefit because it is completely natural, based on a couple’s understanding of the woman’s fertility and acting in a way that respects the fertile part of her cycle. Contraception, on the other hand, is not based on a couple’s understanding and respecting the woman’s fertility, but instead stifles the fertility through a device or pill or patch or injection. Research has shown such means can be harmful to a woman’s health and can even make it difficult for her to have children later on when she wants them. Moreover, some so-called contraceptives, for example, Ella and the copper IUD, are in reality abortifacients: they prevent the already fertilized ovum—a tiny new human being—from surviving in the womb. They cause an abortion at a very early stage of the child’s life. Natural family planning, on the other hand, has nothing to do with contraception or abortion and is not at all harmful to the woman’s health. All it requires is a couple’s willingness to practice it properly. When they do, no method of birth control is more reliable, for couples practicing NFP know when the woman is fertile and realize that she simply cannot become pregnant when the signs indicate that she is not fertile. Finally, natural family planning can be used to help not only the couple that needs to wait before having more children but also the couple that is ready to have children but has difficulty conceiving. Knowing when the woman is fertile, such a couple plans to come together at the peak of the woman’s fertile time, making it extremely likely she will conceive. Indeed, the whole point of NFP is not to enable a couple to avoid having children altogether but to help them bring their intelligence to bear in planning their family by recognizing the signs of fertility. Such an approach reflects well the openness to life that Christ asks of married couples and honors the soon-to- be-canonized Paul VI, who was a model of fidelity and pastoral charity. Fr. Peter F. Ryan, S.J. is professor of theology at Sacred Heart. shms.edu 11