MORE Magazine December 2016 | Page 31

Tresser: Yes, i have a 19 year old and a 16 year old. I'm open to talking about it. And I know that depression can be inherited. On my dad's side, a lot of my family deals with depression. I made it a point to be open. I didn't want them to think that the reason mommy can’t get out of the bed, or the reason mommy has to take medication, it didn't have anything to do with them. My youngest is starting to understand. My youngest daughter had an incident a couple of years ago. SHe shared with me that she a picture out of herself. When she was in 6 th grade. But when she was in hs, she had a fight with a girl. The youngman wanted to ‘prove’ something so he posted the picture on social media. She told me that she was going to let me wake up and find her dead in the morning. She had every intention to commit suicide that night My baby girl, sometimes has panic attacks. I get the guilt, did I pass this onto my children. But she is open and okay with taking anti-anxiety medication. Ayoka: Because of your openness, this will never be a stigma for your children. Tresser: I had not thought about that. I go out and talk about depression now. Even after all these years, I still see that many people still don't talk about depression. Even my mom., with everything that she knew about me, she didn't know how much I really suffered with the depression. I told her that I never wanted her to see me as a failure. My mom said, I always treat you like you never need help because you always seem to have it all together. My sister, had her first child at 16. When she went to her 6 week checkup, she found out that she was pregnant with her second child. Soon after, I was sick, I thought that I had the flu. The same doctor that diagnosed my depression was the same doctor who told me that I was pregnant.