Modern Love Mag Issue 1 | Page 20

The Best Way To Say I Love You D id you today let your partner feel that you love them? How did you do it? Was this the best way to let them feel your love? Maybe you used words. If you said “I love you” to your partner today, then you did a good thing. Your love is beautiful, and it deserves your expression. A survey of YouGov.co.uk quantifies the sad reality. More than 40% of partners in real long term relationships almost never say “I love you.” So you earned your credit today by using the magic words. We human beings are not good at listening. But your partner might have heard and noticed your words. Yet, hearing words about love does not always mean they feel love. It may be something different that 20 “We human beings are not good at listening. ” She might hear him saying “I love you!” But does she feel it? would actually make them feel loved. It depends on their personality and their background. If you ask good old Google “how to express love,” then in half a second you get more than 270.000 answers. You could try one of them each day and see what works best for your partner. But the experiment would take you 740 years. So how to find a way say “I love you” that triggers the emotion of your spouse? And how to identify it fast, let’s say this week? Enter the remarkable work of Dr. Gary Chapman. He is working as a marriage counselor for more than 40 years. He saw one thing over and over again in his daily practice with couples. People say or do wonderful things to make their partners feel loved. But their partners would just not understand. Sounds familiar to you? Then read on! Dr. Chapman had to understand why that happens. He found that people express