Modern Love Mag Issue 1 | Page 15

The Hotmix Game W e were the hosts of this little adult part. But we were stressed out. This cold winter day started with the heating of our house breaking down. The emergency repair service worked on it the whole day. But late afternoon they had to give up. We rushed to a shop and bought an electric heater. It should heat up our living room, for the party. The heater was strong. Too strong for our electrical fuses. They blew out when we turned up the heater. The lights went out. We had to experiment for an hour. Finally, we arrived at a setting that was strong enough to heat the room but still doable for our fuses. Then the first guests arrived. It was a small party. Just four super nice couples and us. But the heating thing had stressed us out. We were still afraid any second the fuses would blow again, and the lights go out. All the couples were much more experienced swingers than us. So we thought we just lean back, enjoy conversations and let them start the action. 15 “Innovative sex can add passion to a relationship.” No one started the action. It became evident that we need an icebreaker. “An icebreaker? How about the hotmix game?” Emily rushed into the kitchen. Two minutes later she brought in a tray with six large cups of water. Three of them filled with ice cubes. Three of them filled with steaming hot water… It is incredible how innovative sex can add passion to a relationship. In this article, we want to share one of our favorite practices. For many people, it will fit into the category of innovative sex. So let’s dig into it. Going Down Hot and Cold Everyone loves oral sex. You can enjoy it in a myriad of ways. Yet, for us, there is a standout variant of oral intercourse that can be quite magical. We named it after the screen name that we use in our adult communities: Hotmix. The hotmix experience involves hot and ice-cold That’s what we did. For water. Let’s start with the three hours. Still, everybody cold part. Fill a large mug was sitting there, talking. with ice cubes. Now add some cold water. The goal is to keep the water in the cup as cold as possible for the next hour. If you don’t have a big mug, you can use a pitcher to keep the water cold. The next mug is for the hot water. The water must not be freakishly hot. The ideal temperature at a point when it is just about drinkable. That is about 60° C / 140° F. You don’t have to be scientific about it. Just make it hot, but drinkable. Emily likes to use a kettle with a built-in thermometer display to heat up the water just to the right point. Use the largest mugs that A pitcher can keep the water cold, if you don’t have large mugs at home.