Mission Beautiful Australia {MBA} Magazine MBA Issue 1 March. 2014 | Page 18

Real Life

Love Isn’t about Hurt,
Everyone says that love hurts, but
that’s not true. Loneliness hurts,
rejection hurts. Everyone confuses these
with love but in reality- Love is the only
thing in this world that covers up all the
pain and makes us feel wonderful again.

Does Love Really Have To Hurt,
Written By Donna Ferguson
DOES LOVE REALLY HAVE TO
HURT?
What were the dreams that you had as
a little girl? What was it for you? Did your
dreams include being happy, successful,
beautiful, confident and free, that is emotionally free. When you grew up did you become
all of the things that you dreamed of becoming? My name is Donna Ferguson and when
I was a little girl my dreams were to be all of
the above and more. But, instead of living the
life I had dreamed of…my life developed into
my biggest nightmare. You see 35 years ago
I met a man that I fell in love with and mar-

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ried. Within a short period of time he literally
took control of my life. Then the abuse started. Firstly it was mentally and emotionally,
taking control of who I saw, when I saw them
and how often I saw them, then the abuse
moved into verbal attacks, firstly in the privacy of only the two of us and then it started
to become a public display. Soon after this
the violence escalated and was taken to the
next level where the physical abuse and finally sexual abuse started. My life had become
filled with such violence and our situation
worsened when one month after we married,
I found I was having to flee from our home

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in my car after a very violent attack. It was
Christmas eve and I got up off the bed one
night after he had finished beating me and I
didn’t recognize myself in the mirror. I was
stuck. How did I get to this place? How could
I allow myself to be put in this situation? I had
always been extremely independent and now
every minute of my day was controlled by this
monster.
I remember coming home from hospital
with our baby daughter and I no sooner had
finished cleaning up his disgusting mess that
I came home to, that he demanded sex, not

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