3. Passive aggressive game playing
Under this point, you will say one thing and mean another. Because of an
inability to communicate, be it by design or lack of ability (or both) you drain
the life out of your gay relationship by engaging in passive aggressive be-
haviors. The end result for you and your partner is confusion, anger and
resentment.
Examples include:
Not directly saying what you mean during a dispute
Pretending everything is “OK” when it is clearly not
Refusing to engage in meaningful dialog about a problem
Withholding emotions, including physical and emotional affection
4. Selfish behaviors
Selfishness is perhaps one of the major reasons behind gay relationship
breakups. And while the word selfishness may be subjective, there are a
certain set of behaviors that clearly indicate one person is acting like a ma-
jor narcissist.
It is important under this point to look at the totality of behaviors and not iso-
late just one thing.
Examples include:
Acting like a selfish bottom in the bedroom (aka pillow princess)
Not doing your part to keep your shared home clean (i.e. chores)
Expecting your man to pay for everything because he makes more money
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