possession will ever occupy
that empty space within you.
That space is longing for a
deeper connection with you.
Your true job is to figure out
what it is that you really want
to give rather than what it is
you want to take. You have
to dig deep and figure out
what lies beneath the surface
of your desires. Maybe the
reason you want the “in the
spotlight” job is because
you really want to feel loved.
Perhaps you never felt seen as
a child and this is your chance
to show up and off for the
world. This is your chance for
all the world to never ignore
you again because your face
is right in theirs. And while
you might achieve those
accolades, the truth is they
either won’t last or after a
while, they won’t even matter
to you.
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You see, nothing and no
one can make you feel seen,
except you. Only you can
really believe you are worthy
of being here and no job or
person will do that for you.
You will find that out quickly.
Choose something to do that
serves people rather than
yourself. In that service, you
will find your joy and ultimately
start seeing who you really
are. I’m encouraging you to
take a closer look at why you
are choosing a particular path,
whatever path that may be,
and decide if it’s really about
your love for it or for what you
feel you will gain from it.
So, the object of your affection
just isn’t everything you had
hoped for. You worked and
waited so hard to be in a
relationship and suddenly you
find yourself still not happy.
Maybe you knew all along that
this wasn’t the right person,
but you also knew that they
had some great qualities and
maybe, just maybe, you could
make it work. Maybe they fed
a certain part of you that felt
unsatisfied. Temporarily, they
will feed you but you will still
find yourself yearning for more.
You see, when you stop
expecting others to be a
certain way and you just allow
them to show up as they are,
then you will really know love,
and a beautiful relationship will
be born and flourish. Anything
in between that just isn’t real.
It’s not fair, it’s not honest, and
it’s not love. That doesn’t mean
that it won’t work out, but it
might be a rockier road while
the two of you try to navigate
your way through it. Love
flows. Sure, there are naturally
some bumps along the way,
but not because either of you
are placing those obstacles
there. Life can be challenging
at times but we don’t have
to make it more challenging
because we are not showing
up as ourselves or because
we aren’t letting someone
else. Something to really think
about: If you find yourself
unhappier in a relationship than
being alone, it’s time to pack
up those bags and hit the road.
Scary? Sure, but not any scarier
than staying somewhere where
you’re feeling more alone than
if you were actually alone.