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I know he has personal insecurities which results in a need to feel loved and wanted. I know I am guilty of being hard on him and pushing him away. What I don't know is that am I being stupid and really my husband is just a cheater or is this something we can be strong through? We do both love each other very much and we are happy together, but we do have tough times and the kids are a big motivator to stay committed. I don't know if i can trust my husband or not. I would love some words of wisdom. Thanks, Confused. chunks will help you to have more clarity. It sounds like a situation where your husband is counting on you too much for his own happiness and you may be trying to nurture him too much. The danger there is that over nurturers eventually take on a parenting role for their spouse, and it changes the dynamics of the relationship. There are no rules as to what your heart can or cannot forgive, and whatever you chose to put first is no one’s business but yours. Just remember, no matter how insecure and needy he is, he's still making the choice to cheat. Perhaps it's time for you to stop trying to take care of all his emotional needs and let him start fighting to regain your trust and respect (and his own). There's no instant fix for you, so what I say may sound cliché, but I think you need to re-learn how to focus on your own happiness without being the fixer for anyone else. Rediscover who you are and what you have to offer the world, rather than what you give your children and husband. Get strong mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Then, reassess the situation through new eyes, and decide if you want to live in the past, or forget it completely and create what you want your life to be within or without your marriage. A. Hi There. Your situation must feel confusing with so much going on, and as time goes by, each dramatic event adds a new layer and a new kind of confusion. 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Then get out there and apply for jobs. Not just your dream job either. Get yourself back into a feeling of simple contentment with life. Celebrate all successes no matter how small. Change will happen as soon as you take your focus away from the negative. mind and body concepts For further support call to make a confidential appointment with Naya Ph 579 5606 WWW.NAYACUNNINGHAM.CO.NZ HAVE A QUESTION FOR OUR LOCAL EXPERT? Email [email protected]. All correspondence is confidential. naya cunningham NUMEROLOGY FORECAST mind and body therapy ideas. Later this month you gain respect and recognition and could find yourself taking on a leadership role. Romance is favourable for you this month. To find your Personal Month for March, firstly calculate your personal year number: simply add your day and month of birth to the year 2019 and keep adding until you reduce to a single digit. For example if your date of birth is 23/04/1975 you would calculate 2+3+0+4+2+0+1+9 = 21 then add 2+1 so your Personal Year for 2019 is 3. Best results, for a fair fee. March 2019 You will be feeling more playful and find it easier to express yourself than may have been the case last month. This is an exciting time, everything will seem more intense and alive. March is a good month for you to get out and about and socialise more. Secondly, add 3 to your personal year number, 3+3, so March would be a 6 month for you (remember to continue reducing so you end up with a single digit between 1 and 9): Look up your Personal Month Number below for an overview of what to expect throughout the month of March: Our team have the Marlborough area covered. You may be feeling reflective early on this month due to the influence of being in a 7 year. However, March brings renewed enthusiasm, increased energy and optimism. This is an excellent time to take on new challenges at work, to start new endeavours, or, if you are in business, to impress a potential new client. Call us first when you’re considering selling. March gives you ample opportunity to influence others. People will be open and inspired by your March is your month to deliver, to show yourself and others that you are willing and able to do whatever it takes to reach your goals. While the overall energy this month is serious and work orientated, romance can bloom. Someone is impressed with your go-getter approach. This month brings relief from the slow progress last month. It can be hectic, which will be easier to navigate if you insist on “going with the flow”. You will be surprised by the coincidences that present in what seems to be perfect timing, take advantage of them. The theme of this month is commitment to your true feelings based around all relationships. Whether these are business or personal, you will be blessed with the ability to clarify your true feelings and express them easily. Finances look positive, due to an earlier investment/ previous work completed. March for you will be filled with the mysteries of life, take note of your dreams. You are mentally sharp and creative and will find it easy to solve problems that have been lingering for a while. You may be offered an opportunity to become involved in a new endeavour. The worlds of work and personal relationships require opposite styles in March. A certain amount of assertiveness in business and career is favourable in order to promote your ideas. On the other hand, in your personal life, a soft approach, patience and understanding of both yourself and others will bring much benefit. You will experience relationships more deeply and feel greater warmth for others this month. This reflects strongly in your relationships with friends and family. You will receive much support from others, good news with regard to your career will boost your self-esteem. The Personal Year Cycle is the only cycle in numerology that follows a simple pattern (1, 2, 3 etc), all other cycles follow a rhythm that is tied to your personal chart. Blenheim 03 578 3366 Picton 03 573 6166 summit.co.nz Ever considered why some talents and abilities come naturally while others don't? Why things seem to flow easier for you at times than at others? Numerology could provide the answers. Numerology is an ancient spiritual science that dates back as far as 2500 years. It can be used as a gateway to deeper self awareness - having more insight into your talents and abilities can help in every aspect of your life.