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the diary of a hypnotist
EACH MONTH, WE WILL SHARE A STORY OF STRUGGLE AND TRIUMPH THAT MAY RESONATE
WITH YOU OR A LOVED ONE, AND INSPIRE THE WILL TO STRIVE FOR BETTER WELLBEING.
Christmas in Paradise
There is no doubt that Marlborough is a sort of paradise – the sea, the mountains, the wine and the food...
However, within our Garden of Eden lurks a
serpent that occasionally emerges around
Christmas time. When I was strolling through
Farmers at the beginning of November, and
I heard Christmas carols trilling over the
speaker system, it brought to mind a story
from last Christmas.
Normally when we think of Christmas, we
think of holiday, family, food and drink, a
time of fun, maybe at the beach. We forget
the stress that Christmas can cause if not
managed according to our means and our
emotions.
So, last December, when Belinda asked to
see me for anxiety due to Christmas, I was
wondering what the problem might be.
And there we were! It was a problem many
families must face: a new relationship.
Belinda was happily involved in a new
relationship, and all (well, nearly all) was
well in her world. Belinda was a gentle
soul, whereas her partner, David, was a
great extrovert and not given much to
introspection.
So when it was suggested that David’s two
adult daughters and their two boys should
come and spend a couple of days with
them over the Christmas period, Belinda
descended into a whirlpool of anxiety. She
had met the daughters, one of whom was
friendly and kind, as was her boy. But, the
other daughter was a bully. As was her son.
And although his daughter was now adult,
she still resented the fact that her parents
had separated, and was nasty and controlling
around Belinda.
Belinda knew that she could do nothing right.
She would be criticised for every meal, every
move, every word. It was easy to understand
why she was so anxious. And she knew she
would get little support from David, as he
could really not understand the problem, and
would simply tell her to stand up for herself.
She was further worried that the boys
would be bored, which could easily result in
intolerable and uncooperative behaviour.
When she came to see me to talk about the
stress and anxiety which was causing her
so much grief, I asked her what her ideal
outcome would be. Not surprisingly, knowing
that the visit was only for a few days, not
a lifetime, she wanted to remain calm and
allow the nastiness and the criticism to just
wash over her. However, this was something
that she had never managed on previous
occasions.
After her session, I asked her to give me a call
after Christmas to tell me how it had gone.
What a happy call! Not only the huge relief
that Christmas was now over, but that she
had managed it beyond her wildest dreams.
She told me that after her visit to me, she
felt calm and focussed and was absolutely
determined to take control over the
situation, and not be overwhelmed by
David’s family. So, after some thought, she
had realised that one way to manage the
situation was to set up an environment for
the boys in which they would be stimulated,
and not bored. So she came up with the idea
of setting up a ‘cave’ tent for the boys and
left ‘treasures’ concealed around the garden.
It turned out that not only did the boys not
grumble about not being on Facebook or
playing games on their phones or tablets, but
they had great fun seeking out the treasures,
which they kept finding in unlikely spots
throughout the three days. Belinda made
simple meals, and organised trips to the park
and the beach. She made sure there was no
time for nastiness or criticism, or, if there
was, she just let it go, and the days went by
wonderfully well. At the end of the holiday,
she was exhausted, but happy!
So, Merry Christmas from Ntrance! Have a
great break if you are taking a family holiday,
If not, make sure you find time for rest,
family time, fun and enjoying the best that
Marlborough has to offer.
Give Chris a call today to take control and change your life.
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Ntrance wishes
you all the best
for Christmas and
the New Year
Chris Steadman
CERTIFIED VIRTUAL GASTRIC BANDING PRACTITIONER
HNZDACH (Hypnosis New Zealand Diploma
in Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapy)
SPMHNZ (Member of Hypnosis New Zealand)
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