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LEADING YOU Grow In Confidence: The Key To Attaining Success In Life And Work By Caroline Nyamwaya Mwazi R ichard and Tony started out as interns at the same marketing communications company five years ago. Both had graduated with Upper Second Class Business Administration degrees, majoring in Marketing, and were excited to be entering the world of work after tarmacking for a relatively short time. It quickly became apparent that Richard had issues with confidence. He rarely contributed in meetings, hardly looked anyone in the eye and while his creative work was great, clients found it difficult to relate with him as he was very shy. Five years after they were hired, Tony is already supervising a team, while Richard remains an Associate, occasionally acting as a supervisor, getting increasingly frustrated and wishing things were different. Psychology Today defines confidence as belief in oneself and one’s ability to succeed. When we are confident, we are able to navigate life expecting to do well and overcoming personal and professional challenges. Confidence makes us see and accept ourselves and others in a balanced, realistic way as unique, complete individuals possessing both strengths and weaknesses. It also makes us approach life with a “Can do” attitude. Low self-confidence arises from various roots including one feeling unable to face people and speak up, intense criticism by authority figures, traumatic and toxic life experiences including sexual abuse, and emotional, verbal and physical abuse where one may think that they must be bad and ‘deserve’ what happened to them. Failure and financial, physical or intellectual struggles also contribute to inferiority and low confidence. Psychology Today defines confidence as belief in oneself and one’s ability to succeed. When we are confident, we are able to navigate life expecting to do well and overcoming personal and profes- sional challenges. Confidence makes us see and accept ourselves and others in a balanced, realis- tic way as unique, complete i