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MADELIFE L’OREAL THOMPSON PAYTON Writer, Speaker & Career Coach @ltinthecity WHEN IMPOSTOR SYNDROME IS REAL… Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt like a fraud…if you’ve ever thought to yourself, “I have no idea what I’m doing, they’re going to figure me out!” You can’t see me, but I’m raising both hands. The struggle of impostor syndrome is real. First defined in the 1970s by clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, the term impostor syndrome is described as “the phoniness in people who believe that they are not intelligent, capable or creative despite evidence of high achievement.” And while I’m not sure if it ever quite goes away completely, I’ve developed a few go-to tricks for stopping impostor syndrome in its tracks. Start a brag book Whenever I’m feeling down and out and start doubting my awesomeness, I refer to my “brag book.” It’s a physical list of accomplishments, both personal and professional. Fun fact: it’s pretty hard for your brain to focus on a positive AND a negative thought at the same time. So filling my mental space with good thoughts and compliments from friends, family and coworkers helps me feel like the badass I know I am. Breakup with your inner critic Have you heard the way you talk to yourself lately? My guess is that it’s not necessarily full of love and good vibes. Ask yourself this question: would you talk to a friend like that? Assuming the answer is “no,” do yourself a favor: ditch the negative self-talk and replace it with self-compassion. Trust your dopeness Once you’ve bid adieu to your inner critic, it’s time to develop a more mindful mantra. My favorite is “trust your dopeness.” I call it to mind whenever I begin comparing myself to other bloggers and influencers and their success. I remind myself that one else is me and that is my magic, my gift to the world. | 40