MADELIFE
Needless to say, I’ve never been so
happy to lose. So, ask yourself: Is this a
closed window getting you ready for an
open door? Could this “no” be part of a
bigger, better plan?
Step 2: Regroup.
AUDRINA BIGOS
News Reporter, CBS Chicago
@audrina_ontv
WHEN THINGS DON’T GO AS
PLANNED…
Step 1: Reflect
Everything happens for a reason.
Sometimes it’s not what went wrong. In
hindsight, it’s actually what went right. In
2008, I walked off a stage in Miami, FL
devastated when I lost a Miss America
preliminary pageant. Little did I know –
there was something better just around
the corner. If I had won the crown,
I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to
move to Washington D.C. months later
when I was accepted into Georgetown
University and offered my first internship.
KEISHA MABRY Author of Hey Friend:
100 Ways To Connect with 100 People In
100 Days | @keishamabry
WHEN IT'S TIME TO MAKE NEW
FRIENDS...
Build your friendwork before you need it
and they will be there
when needed.
I live by the motto “always be
friendworking.” Meaning, every day I strive
to connect with someone new or reconnect
with someone old. Friends add happiness
to our lives and they also come through
when things go left not right. So…build
your friendwork before you need it and
they will be there when needed.
Seek new tribes during transitional times.
Life happens and when life happens you
may need new friends. New friends and
new support systems. New you, new goal,
My late pastor used to say “I will not
quit, therefore I cannot be defeated.”
It’s a good reminder about relentless
optimism and refocused energy. As you
work to regroup from this setback, talk
to people who you trust and respect.
They can help you navigate your Plan
B so you don’t get stuck. They can also
help you figure out what you learned in
the process and how to build from that.
Remember to remain positive.
Step 3: Rebound
Get back to the drawing board. This can
look differently for everyone. I tend to
unplug and quiet the noise (like social
media). This allows time for prayer,
journaling and clarity. Contrary to the
“grind” mentality, I think being still is
beneficial in pivotal times like the one
you may be in now.
new grad, new role,
new start-up, new
state, new career, new
mate. All of these transitions may require
people in your circle that can understand
them and that’s a-ok. So friends, if you are
in a transition or simply leveling up, head
on over to Facebook Groups or Meet-up
and find a crew that understands you.
If you’re giving more than you get, it’s
time to make new friends.
Last but not least, this tip isn’t always so
easy peasy but if you are giving more than
you get in any relationship—it’s time to
make a shift. So whether it’s a new friend,
an old friend, a borrowed friend or a blue
friend, if you are giving more than you get
on a consistent basis, you may want to
make new friends. Simple as that.
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