Luxe Culture: How do you set
boundaries when it comes to family
members and close friends?
Heather: Setting boundaries in a respectful is always
neccessary. When you marry, it is you and your husband. You both are now one flesh. It is important to
set boundaries to ensure that you create unity in your
household. You also have to remember, not all marriages work the same, and you have to protect your
marraige from other people’s opinons and advice that
isn’t birthed in prayer. Just because someone is a lcose
family memeber or friend - doesn’t always mean they
have the right answer.
You and your husband are to work things through. Be
mindful of what you vent and who you share it with,
ask the Holy Spirit who you can trust and share things
with. My advice to those who are desiring someone
to talk to when they need counsel, is to connect with
their marraige ministry at their church, or possibly an
unbiased spirit filled and led couple that you and your
husband believe you can trust and confide in.
Often times when we go to biased parties, they will
give you a skewed view of things, and they most likely
aren’t trying to be malicious! When times get tough,
you shouldn’t run to mommy or daddy, you should
run to your singles friends and ask for advice, they will
most likely not understand. Your first place to go is to
God with each other, make decisions with one another.
“When you marry, it is you
and your hu sband. You
both are now one flesh. It
is important to set boundaries to ensure that you
create unity in your household.”
Doing ministry, having my sweet almost 2 year old
Logan, being pregnant and preparing for another sweet
baby on the way, Pinky Promise Ministry and our
church The Gathering Oasis, traveling, the list could
go on and on! There is so much that can overtake my
schedule and my husband’s as well. We always have to
make sure we take time out to invest in one another.
Our marriage is important to God, God is the one who
created marraige and brought us together.
Our time together matters to Him, He delights when
we fall more in love with one another each day. Our
home is our first priority, we plan our date days, our
alone time together so that we may continue to grow
in our marriage, because our union together is tied
to what God has called us to do. As we pour into our
marraige and continue to grow stronger we will be able
to impact the people that God has called us to.
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