“Before you walk down the aisle...”
Q & A WITH HEATHER LOVE LINDSEY
“There is journey after the “I Do’s” that we can’t forget about. Yes, the journey is filled with love,
and wonder and adventure, is going to be filled with hard moments that will build you and your
husband up for great things! Prepare for it, embrace it, enjoy it, and most of all pray.”
Founder of The Pinky Promise, an organization that promotes
honoring God with your life & body whether single or married. Heather challenges teens, young adults and women to
rise above cultural pressures and to stay determined to live for
Christ regardless of their circumstances. Facing consequences
women in previous generations couldn’t imagine, ladies receive
straight talk from Heather on how to say no in a yes society.
Luxe Culture got the opportunity to do a Q & A with Mrs
Lindsey who gracefully lent out words of wisdom and seasoned
advice for our brides to be.
Read below...
Luxe Culture: How do you resolve conflict in marriage or even
during the wedding planning process?
Heather: An important thing to remember when you and your husband disagree, or aren’t exactly seeing eye to
eye on something, is to not allow your emotions to overtake you. There have been times where if my husband
and I don’t agree and we feel that the conversation is getting too heated where neither of us can communicate
affectively to o ne another - we have a code word, and that code word is JESUS. When either one of us says that
name in the midst of a conflict, all words cease. My husband and I refuse to allow a conflict to escalate to a point
where words are said out of intensified emotions of anger and hurt and those words can not be taken back. We
realize that will not always agree on everything, and we will have conflict, but how we choose to address and
work through those conflicts says more about who we are then who we are pointing the finger out. Remember you and your soon to be husband are about to eb ONE FLESH (Genesis 2:24) essentially whatever words
you speak and sew into your soon to be spouse are being sewn right back into you - why are you saying hurtful
things to yourself sis?! Our words are seeds that we plant in one another and we must guard them when speaking
to our spouse everyday and especially in conflict. In Proverbs the bible says “Those who guard their lips preserve
their lives, but those who speak rashly will come to ruin”, in Pslam 141:3 David prays “Lord; set a guard over my
mouth, keep watch over my lips”.