Life Without Conflict 71
Questioner : No .
Dadashri : Differences of opinions lead to fights and worries . If that happens because of differences in opinions then imagine what would happen if there are differences amongst the minds ? When that happens , divorces take place and when there is a difference with the body , death will occur .
Fight , But In the Park
If you want to fight , go outside and do it . Make that your rule . The day the two of you want to fight , go to a park and fight as much as you want , then come home , but do not fight at home . The day you feel like fighting with your wife , tell her , “ Let us go to a park and have a nice picnic and then we can fight to our heart ’ s content .” Fight in a way that others will get involved . There should be no fighting at home . God does not reside in a home where there is discord . What has God said ? He has said there should be no fighting in the home of a devotee . A devotee is anyone whose worship is indirect ( paroksha bhakti ) through the medium of a picture , an image , an idol etc . And a devotee whose worship is direct , ( pratyaksha ), one who has the awareness and the realization of the Soul within is called a ‘ Gnani ’, and there can be no conflicts in the home of a Gnani , only eternal bliss ( samadhi ) prevails there .
So if someday you have a desire to fight , tell your husband , “ Let ’ s go to the park .” Send the children to someone else . Then tell your husband to smile when you slap him in public . Let the public witness your drama . People are big on impressions . When they see you both , they will think to themselves , “ Here is a man who is very honorable , but today he has no reputation left .” Does anyone have any honor left today ? People create a reputation for themselves by hiding the truth .