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independent control or power, so why don’t you also become
like the wall? When you scold your wife, the God within her
makes a note of what you are doing. If she starts to scold you,
you should become like the wall, and the God within you will
help you.
Fault Is Of the Sufferer
Questioner : Some people just do not understand, no
matter how nicely you interact with them.
Dadashri : If they do not understand, then the fault is
yours. Why did you get such a person with limited understanding?
Why is it that only you had to have an encounter with such a
person? Anytime you have to suffer, know that it is the
consequence of your own mistakes.
Questioner : So do I have to accept that such is my
own karma?
Dadashri : Definitely. If there is no mistake on your part,
you will not have to suffer anything. There is nobody in this
world that can hurt you in the slightest but if someone does,
then it is because of your own mistake. The other person is
simply instrumental in the process of your own unfolding karma.
Therefore, the fault is of the sufferer.
A husband and wife get into a big row with each other
and then retire to bed. The wife is sleeping soundly and snores
while the husband tosses and turns in bed. Understand that the
husband is the one at fault because he is the one suffering, not
the wife. The one who is at fault is the one who suffers. If he
falls asleep and the wife cannot, then recognize that she is the
one at fault. Fault is of the sufferer.
This science is extraordinary. What I am telling you is a
very subtle science. The whole world blames only the apparent
doer (nimit).